Sometimes the problem isn’t necessarily that your significant other is doing something but that your line of thinking is too negative or too suspicious. When we are prone to getting jealous, or obsessive compulsive jealous or green eyed monster RAWR RAWR RAWR jealous, we see things that may be fairly normal and blow them out of proportion. For example, was that hug just a bit too long? or is she smiling at him or is she smiling-hey-give-me-some-of-that-sugar smiling at him?
We have to stop trying to find reasons to be jealous, or finding things to nitpick on. Sometimes a hug is just that, a hug between friends. Sometimes a smile, is just pure joy. Think somethings going on? Talk. Don’t yell. Don’t nag. Don’t whine. Just talk. See if this is something to be legitimately upset/jealous over. Was there something beyond just friends between those two? Ask. If he’s a good guy, he’ll tell you the truth. If he lies and is a skeeze, then he doesn’t deserve you and you shouldn’t worry about him anyways.
So reinvent how you think. Not everyone is an enemy. And not everyone wants to steal that hubby of yours away. There are legitimate people out there that just want to be friends. You have to admit, not everyone of the guys you meet wants to get with you. And some of them end up becoming really great friends. You have to take that same kind of thinking with girls that your hubby befriends. Not all of them are there to steal him away, and they in turn, also see the great person that your boyfriend is and want to be friends with him. Nothing wrong with that. Like the “Befriend the Friend” post, get to know them =) and give them a chance.
Good luck. Positive thinking. Let’s keep moving forward!
-Jane
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